E is gone for his first trip of the new year this week, so it’s just B and me for a few days. He’ll be gone next week as well, but I’m trying not to think about that. And I’m trying to be positive. We watched last week’s “The Office” (wherein Jim goes to Philadelphia pretending to have a really tough schedule ahead of him while Pam struggles at home with the kids and a case of lice, but pretends everything is fine because she wants to be supportive of Jim, laughs ensue, etc. etc.) and I was reminded of how unsupportive I can be of him when he’s out in the field….something I really need to change.
At any rate, I came up with a new daily schedule for B and I last week and it seems to be working well. Instead of staring down the barrel of a day full of hours and nothing but a list of household chores to fill those hours, I now have small blocks of time dedicated to specific things. I thought I might hate it at first, which is why I’ve been so hesitant to sit down and make a schedule for so long (despite reading this suggestion in many places), but I’ve liked it so far and it seems to be especially useful now when I am parenting alone. Here is what I have right now:
1 hour: shower – clean bathrooms/bedroom
1 hour: breakfast – clean kitchen
1 hour: B & momma time
1 hour: errands/chores (generally I clean in the morning)
2 hours: nap time/momma free time (depending on how long he sleeps)
1 hour: lunch – clean kitchen
1 hour: B & momma time
1 hour: chores (generally I work on food drying/ferments/preservation/etc. in the afteroons and B likes to help me with these)
And then usually E is home by that time and I start supper. Obviously it doesn’t look like this every day as we have errands or story time at the library or play dates or trips to the park or whatever. But I have found that it’s not a bad template to follow for the day. Where before B used to pull at me all day to “do trains” or “play blocks” or read whatever book he currently finds fascinating, I have a whole hour in the morning and afternoon dedicated to him and he’s been at least a little more willing to let me have some time to get what I need to get done…done. It’s fine when he can help me with cleaning or cooking or whatever, but most of it isn’t very toddler-friendly. At least not toddler-friendly to the point where I can maintain my sanity.
Fortunately, we have our Azure Standard pickup today, then a quick meeting with some friends later, milk pick-up tomorrow, and a playdate on Wednesday before E is back on Thursday. I don’t normally like a lot of activity, but it does make the time go by faster when E is gone.
Aside fromE being gone, the Packers being eliminated from the play-offs, and the White House rejecting a request to build the Death Star, I think the week is starting well. How’s that for positive? 🙂